"i'm not good enough??so what??!!"

Have you ever felt that you're living by other people's expectations?When WHATEVER you do is NEVER good enough by their standards?You strived your hardest and still it's not even near their "TARGET"of what you should achieved?
What do you do?How do you feel?Stressed?Sick?Depressed?Talk to someone?Play along?"bodek"them a bit?I don't know..What is the best way for you to deal with this situation.?
You and me....different,childhood,how we were raised=different..backgrounds?different..so,how do we find one solution for this?
Some people will say.....move on
some might say....ignore that person
some say......i dunno
some ....smirk at you
some......sabar(be patient)

I believe at some point in your life,you're just too tired to hear the same advices and the same people telling you the SAME thing all the time....
Being PATIENT ..all your life is also verrryyy tiring...
What do you do then??TAKE CHARGE OF YOUR LIFE....
Do things at your own pace,own way and at the same time,be nice to all those people around you that has been bugging you,telling you that you're not good enough.SMILE...It is YOUR life..so why bother what people have to say.?As long as your actions does no harm to you and your loved ones....continue.Life's too short to live by what others think of you..It is not them who give you this life.You don't owe anyone any explanations on how you bathe your kids,what you make them for breakfast,why your sambal tumis is not as nice as your sister's,why you wear your clothes starting with your left hand instead of your right hand,why you walk sideways and not like a supermodel,why you don't put on makeup,why you don't have enough designer handbags...and the lists are endless.....
LIVE YOUR LIFE AS HOW YOU WANT IT TO BE,HOW YOUR RELIGION ASK YOU TO..NOT BY OTHER PEOPLE'S STANDARD....PEACE!!!!

My first stall ;)

Salam everyone...ola ;)There's always a first time for everything..no?Well,for the first time,I'll be opening a shop table at a bazaar as stated below.I'll be selling ..aha!!yesss...my "baby" ...homemade halal beef lasagna
creme caramel and other yummies,together with Ame with her beautiful craftwork.So dear friends,do come...hope to see u there ;)
(anyone who wishes to pre-order their lasagna,pls do so by thursday.lasagna will be sold at rm50,rm5 off the normal price.)
Venue: SEGi University College, Kota Damansara
Address: No. 9, Jalan Teknologi, Taman Sains Selangor, Kota Damansara, PJU 5, 47810 Petaling Jaya, Selangor D.E.
Date: 27-28 March 2010
Time: 10am - 5pm

Life as a homemaker@housewife...;)

Assalamualaikum...Ola people!!!

Today's entry is about me and me only..not about other homemakers or queen of the house ya...;)
I used to work for 11 years,resigned.Worked for a month with a multinational company,resigned..and have been staying home ever since.Since I left the "working"world,I've seen and heard many comments about "housewives,orang rumah,homemakers..and whatever that this so called "working"people called them(including me la..)Most of the time the remarks will be
"eh,you dah tak kerja?best la dokrumah,goyang kaki,main2 ngan anak je kan"
"ohhh..surirumah,bestla..takde dateline,takde meeting"
"eeeiii..bestnye jadi housewife ye..relax kan"
Some are plain dumb comments to me,some are cynical,some are just being bitchy...some are????IGNORANT???
I saw this in my friends ,friend FB status:as I'm not a normal housewife,i don't have the time to buat update blog".....
hmmmm...maybe she should resign and go learn how to manage her time well.
In life ...we're given/blessed with 24hrs,manage it !!...
Life of a stay at home mom:

• starts at 6am..mandi,solat..boil water for my coffee
• hidai baju..if raining,figure out how to make em dry and not smelly..meaning all over the house/guest room
• I'm not gonna break into details what i do at home..just so you who have maid knows,EVERYTHING that your maid does..i do it,vacuum,sapu rumah,doing dishes,hidai baju,lap itu ini,clean the bathroom,....i don't wash the cars or do the gardening coz i don't have a garden...hahahha..
• my kids learn to read and write from me ..alhamdulillah,even muqaddam.alhamdulillah..
• i cook almost everyday...almost.
• i sleep late coz that's the only "ME TIME" that i have.
• I NEVER..go out WITHOUT my kids..not anybody's problem,not mine either..sometimes leceh but I wont leave them with other people except my husband.
• Who ever said housewife don't have datelines or meeting??preparing my kids meal,their bathtime,tea time,nap time,reading time,playing time,mengaji...tv time..everything that involves a toddler and a 5 year old...i call it dateline..constantly on the my feet..have to be faster than them...
• sometimes i don't even know what to cook...:/

I'm not a perfect housewife..not a perfect mommy..Don't even wish I'm perfect but I do wish and doa everyday that what I do will benefit my kids and my family.They're the most important people in my life..I'm blessed to have them with me...
Oh ya,no to forget,I'm a unit trust consultant and I bake :)..so whoever says being a housewife is easy...ask them to resign and try doing it first....;)
(another thing...please don't forget the endless siblings fights,messing up the toys room,their sakit demam,endless questions why,what,when...from my kids...tiring but satisfying)

stop whining and change...for your future's sake!!!

Assalamualaikum everyone...Ola people!!Hope everybody had a good weekend.It's school hols and maybe some of you are out there with your kids and loved ones,maybe some are at home with your kids,watching TV and enjoying each others company :))

I hope this entry will be short and sweet and will benefit some of us including me.:)I have some friends,acquaintance,people from all walks of life saying that they're tired of doing what they're doing and yet not enough money every month...I maybe the wrong person they talked to as I'm my own boss(my choice..and I don't complain)...hmmm..let's see if I can be some help to those in this category....I will always say,whatever your condition is, save some money first,before you spend it on other things.

• every month,pay yourself first.put in an account where you know you don't have easy access to it>this is to ensure when you fall sick (nauzubillah),you wont have to call a friend to ask for medical money.
• B.Y.O.F>bring your own food!!!!people2...come on..don't be such a lazy bum to make your own sandwich to work..to those who likes it hot and spicy,make sambal tumis during the weekend,and there you have sambal tumis sandwich to bring to work,and sambal tumis is great as they can be reheat many times...so can bring to work maybe 2 or 3 times??
• B.Y.O.D>bring your own drinks!!!so what if people call you cheapskates??so what??they're NOT gonna be there to pay for your hutang and medical bills when you so need the money right?bring water or coffee in your flask.bring creamer in sachets if you like 'em white :)
• how to have home cooked food when you're tired?easy..cook only once a week,in big portions,freeze them and when u come home,thaw and reheat them>don't tell me you want steak every night right?eat healthy food and not rice every night will do a LOT of GOOD to your body :)

This list are purely from my obeservation and own experience.Though I've never worked in an office before(does one month in the office counts?)..I fine this method works for me.I see so many people complaining of not having enough time to cook,always eating out and before end of the month(usually 2 weeks before)the money's all gone....:(

CHANGE!!!You have to change to be able to have a different life.Money doesn't drop from the sky..to those homemakers,where their husbands are the sole breadwinner,there must be something that you can do to help the economy of your family.Stop whining and complaining or blaming other people even...

It's easy to blame other people for everything..but let's not do that.Be in charge of your life,be a responsible person,if not for other people,for yourself.Life may not be the same tomorrow,you may not have that job that you have today tomorrow..nobody knows what in there for you tomorrow..so,be prepared.SAVE and CHANGE!

TAG FROM SUPERHEROES AND MOM...:)

Assalamualaikum everyone
oh yeah..i've been tagged..never been tagged before,not femes..hahaha..now ada femesla sikit(ferasan)so..here goes.....

Here are the rules to accept the award :

1. Thank & link the person that gave you the award. THANK YOU IZ
2. Pass this award onto 15 bloggers you’ve recently discovered and think are fantastic:wokay..sapa yg kena???

1. LYBEAU
2. A NEW CHAPTER OF MY LIFE
3. NELCYNDANA
4. COFFEE CREAMER & SUGAR
5. AKAK RATU
6. TRANSFORMASI 2009
7. MR & MRS IMRAN
8. DAYS OF OUR LIFE
9. BABY BLU
10. MAZNAH
11. THE DELIVERANCE
12. EYNDA'S DIARY
13. THIS IS ME
14. FROM MY KITCHEN WITH LOVE
15. THE JOURNEY OF MY LIFE

3. Contact said Blogs and let them know they’ve won the award – Oh..Okayyyy..:)
4. State 7 things about yourself....

1. simple
2. loving but can be paranoid mom
3. blunt
4. honest
5. loyal
6. sensitive
7. active

lasagna in Shah Alam :)

Assalamualaikum everybody........
Announcement2x...I will be in Giant Shah Alam on Friday 12/03/2010 around 1230hrs to deliver lasagnas.If you wish to place your order,please do so by wednesday..nak kena confirm awai2 ye..you can reach me at 016-9057668 or email mas_arom@yahoo.com or order kat chatbox http://monpetiticafe.blogspot.com/
Thank you semua..see u there :)

Qamilla Boutique

Assalamualaikum...olla people :)
I was pretty busy as usual,Alhamdulillah but managed to meet few old friends in between my tight schedules(macam busy gilakan)keekkekeek..I went to SACC to meet up with an old friend,the last time I saw her was in 1994???maybe la..so,while waiting  for her I walked into this boutique called Qamilla.I...fell....in love..with her collections..oh my,oh my...I maybe exaggerating but I don't think I am..I find her collections...simple yet stunningly elegant..I quickly told my darling husband..."now u know where I'm going to get my baju kurung and jubah from"..heheheh..He agreed that their collections are different from any other shops that we've been into..their collections of men's baju melayu are also equally stylish...*sigh*...i'm dreaming of that polka  dot cotton kurung and that black jubah with sarawak motifs.........

stress no more.....:)

Salam people..
A short entry on what I take for helping me go through a hectic day.I can't elaborate on what  vitamins or supplement to take for your body..every body works /react differently on supplements,so..ask your doctor for advice before splurging on supplements that you don't even know whether your body needs them or not.
As for me this B-50 works for me,it helps me to go through my everyday life,hectic jgk,no maid,2 toddlers,update clients and deliver orders..:)I get them from Cosway..so,if you guys wanna try,head to the nearest Cosway outlet :)..cheers.
*please check with your doctor first before buying the product,if you are allergic to any supplements*

sediakan payung sebelum hujan

Assalamualaikum...Ola people :)

Do you have a fire extinguisher at home?in your car?..I believe everyone should have at least one in their home and in their car.I want to share this experience with you guys..It wasn't that scary but scary enough to make me want you to have this thing at home.

I was at my MI L's house last Thursday..I was supposed to attend a friends majlis doa selamat in Bkt A on Friday morning.So,I had something to do in KL on thursday ,we spend the nite at MIL's house...eh,eh,...melalut lak aku ni..sorry eh..

At around 4ish Friday morning i woke up to attend to muaz..I didn't know what time it was.I was about to go back to sleep when I smell something burning.It was mild a first then it became stronger.I got up wondering if my MIL had woke up and have something on the stove.

I opened the room door to a dining room filled with smoke.I rushed to the kitchen but there was nothing on the stove,my mind straight away thought,the house is on fire!!

I called out for my husband"yang..something's burning,get up"..Muaz didn't sleep and hung on to my husband who was already up and went straight for the kitchen door.He opened the kitchen to let the smoke out and went in front to open the sliding door .I went to check on marissa..alhamdulillah we were all okay.My hubby woke my in laws up and FIL said it has got to do with the wiring or one of the lights.

We were all okay,the house was not on fire,the circuit breaker tripped and everything went ok,alhamdulillah...buttt..I couldn't sleep coz muaz didn't want to sleep.I didn't sleep until 0930hrs Friday morning..I wanted to stay up to attend the kenduri but I was to exhausted that I slept and woke up at 1130 or so..the kenduri was suppose to be at 11am.(i was tired because i send my dad in pekeliling on Thurs and had a lot going on that week)

I 'm sorry my friend that I missed the kenduri,it wasn't intentional.I wouldn't have come all the way from nilai if i didn't want to attend yr majlis,but it wasn't meant to be.(my friend hasn't replied my msgs since that day)Insyallah..ada rezeki kalau u jemput lagi i akan sampai.This is where the saying goes,"kita merancang and Allah yg menentukan"..:(

So,back to the other story,get a BCF/fire extinguisher,keep it at home.It's vital to have it at home..learn on how to use it,it's pretty easy.

take care people..salam.