it's been a good day...so far,:)

Salam everyone...
how's your day people?Mine has been wonderful,alhamdulillah.(so far so goooooddd).Hubby came back from work this morning,the children are happy,mummy is happy,went out for lunch and bought some groceries.
Right before we went out for lunch,i checked my email and one particular email really made my day even better.It was from mamafiza@littlekittle.com.I have to share this with you ladies,mommies,daddies out there,this is one amazing young mommy.She inspires positive thinking in me,so that i want to be a better mommy,wife and a better person..so that i see things in a positive way,Things that i take seriously before.Let me give an example,when i bumped into her in alamanda 3 mths ago,i walked straight to her and introduce myself.(i'm a big fan of hers)Marissa was tearing away the serviettes and some of the little pieces scattered on the food court floor.I picked up the serviettes,a little embarassed,and said"marissa,please.."and look at mamafiza and said,"sorryla,my kids are like this"And you know what mamafiza said,"it's okay dear.That is call creativity"...
I was stunned for about 3 seconds.She was right!!My daughter is just being a normal 4 years old.There's nothing to be sorry about.I should be proud of her making something out of the boring looking serviette...and you know what she called the torned serviette?"miss softee."
Isn"t that something?I was so thankful that God planned for me to see mamafiza that day.Since then,i have a better response towards my children's activities.Although its very tiring to clean up the mess,but in the process of them growing up,drawing,scribbling,cleaning up together..we as parent have to be more open,encouraging and more"fun"with our children
If you guys like to know about littlekittle.com and the amazing mamafiza,go to their homeschool blog at www.littlekittle.com.I tried to put up their official link in my blog,but as i said in one of my post,i'm a little buta IT..(sorry mamafiza).will try my best to post it here.click on their blog and i'm sure you guys will agree that this petite lady is one gifted amazing mommy.
I on the other hand is still trying my best on nurturing my kiddos with good manners,habits...etc,etc.Plus,trying so hard being a more patience mom.(about absolutely everything ;) )
To my dearest mamafiza,my hats off to you again for being who you are.Insyaallah,i will try to be more positive and taking everyday as a fun day.It should be that way,as our children needs us the most at their age right now.MMuaahhss to you*hugs*.
To all you mommies and daddies out there,lets remind each other how truly blessed we are,having these precious darlings with us.Make time to be with them,no matter how busy you are with your work,make time to do things that is important to them,even if its watching their favourite programme on the tv,read to them(daddies too)...time is so precious.They'll grow up before you know it..and the time will come when they wont need you to be "there"for them.Don"t waste this time to see them grow up.Its beautiful,its very special to me and hope its special to you guys too.
signing out,mummycool.

moving out??

Nilai Perdana.
Single storey house for sale.3rooms2baths.20x70,Near amenities,giant,comuter station,bus stations,banks..etc.20mins to KLIA,10mins to exit north/south highway.freehold.selling for rm120k.

Desa vista,Salak Tinggi,Sepang.
Double storey house,3r3 baths,1 uitility room,1store room.Near amenities,schools,15mins to KLIA,10mins to giant,nilai.quiet and safe neighbourhood.Malay reserved land.Selling for 130k.

Hi everyone...there's these houses for sale.Hopefully there's somewhere out there will be kind enogh to spread this news and hopefully we'll be able to find someone to buy these houses.So readers,kindly let me know if you're interested,or maybe anyone that u know is interested...thanks.

outing with "aki"...

Salam everyone...how's yr day?It's been really dry and humid lately...so,it affects everybody's mood.I feel tired easily(maybe i forgot to take my vit B-50,or maybe i need a break sooo badly..)

which mummy doesnt right.??every mommy deserve a break,especially those without help from anyone(maids,in-laws or parents)hmm...

My dad,came to visit us recently and my kids were excited and happy to have "aki"around.wishing papa the best of health and may you be blessed with good health so that you can visit us often..vice-versa.

kickers for sale anyone?

Assalamualaikum.....hi y'all.I have to make this really quick coz tak solat lagi and my "big"boy muaz is sleepy ,time for his nap."mummy...abang sleepy"..tht's what he said 10 mins ago.So,make this short,sweet and simple.I;m selling my husbands shoes.its kickers,size 9 or 43.He wore it only once and unfortunately,he bought the wrong size...??why la??but he havent wor them since then.If there's anyone out there interested,pls let me know.I bought it for rm198.00 but selling it it for rm160.It's as good as new.ok,gtg..see y'all again.

It's been more than a week since my last post..hehehehe..didnt have the time,mood or anything to post about.My life is very simple but colorful,thanks to my two munchkins.It's not easy to run around after them,cleaning up from morning till late..but i know this is just a phase,insyaallah.I'm trying to remind myself to enjoy every minute with my precious ones as we'll never know when our "time"will come.I'm truly thankful,alhamdulillah forbeing given this precious oppurtunity to have two beautiful intelligent human beings to be part of my humble life.Thank you God,alhamdulillah.

did we make the right decision?

Salam to all......i've been quite busy lately.So many thinks on my mind but yet i couldnt put it down in words.Infact i'm not in the "mood"to put this down here but ...why not.Maybe it could clear the heavy burden that i've carried this past few days.
When my husband and i decided to send marissa to school,we have talk about it like a million time,comparing the rest of the "pre-school"that this small town has and we decided on one.It's not even in the same town that we live.Why we chose that place is because they gave us the choice to choose how many classes that marissa should attend..and that she doesnt have to go there everyday,they communicate in english only and they emphasize on reading,writing and speaking in english.plus,there's no exam.
Since marissa is only 4,and she speak well..i wanted her to have a place where she can speak english and mingle with friends.Where she doesn't have to be burden with homeworks and exams(she have more than 10 years to do that in the future)....What bothers me and my husband lately is,our daughter is not the same talkative,happy girl that we both know and loved.
i know,coz i'm mommy!Marissa is afriendly,warm and very jovial.She makes friends easily wherever she goes.but,after her 3rd class,when i ask her what are her friends names...for the 3rd time,her reply was still"i dont know"...I got a little worried.Because she always remembers name.I asked her,did you ask them?she said yes but they didnt talk to me.marissa told me that the children were not alllowed to talk to each other and they only have to sit,bersila and keep quiet and "relax".i was like !@#$%..whats going on here???
so,my husband and i talked it over and agreed to monitor her progress.what the teacher told me was she passed her stage 3 in her exercise which is very good but what bothers me is that,is my child having fun?
I've been with her 24/7 at home,teaching her with my best interest and abilities,speak to her until she can speak very well(alhamdulillah)and i can say that my daughter is not this girl that dont know her friends name.besides that what type of school that forbids the kids to talk among themselves.
What i'm going to do is to send her for her 4th class tomorrow and maybe have a little chat with the teacher.This evening i told marissa that she's got to go to school tomorrow and she said i dont want mom..i dont like the school.i cannot do anything there and i only can sit and bersila.they let me draw but they wont let me talk to the other children.
No wonder when we first went there,my daughter spoke to one of the kids and that poor boy never responded.so my daughter asked infront of the teacher,"mom,why he doesnt talk?"
i guess now i know why...
well,if i find my answer tomorrow..this could be the first and the last month marissa attends her "school".(my daughter knows the word "look"eversince she was born and this poor teacher is teaching her what is look!!!!)I would be glad to teach my daughter her spelling and the rest of it myself rather than send her to some school that wont let her be her jovial self.
I may sound like i'm being overprotective or over concerned about this,i dont mind whatever that people will labelled me.I'm a mommy and that's what a mommy does...worry!I worrry that my kids will be something they are not just because somebody else is telling them to be that way.
Well,doa for me and my kids.I have a mission tomorrow.to marissa and muaz:mummy and ayah will try our very best to give the best education for you,duniawi and ukhrawi,insyaallah.we love you both so much and we know you will try your hardest to please us,but dont worry...let us do the worrying.If you're not happy of something you can always come and tell us.

signing out,mummycool.

Muhammad Muaz is 2!!

My "baby"boy is going to be 2 tomorrow.He was born on 6th may 2007,before subuh prayers on sunday at Selangor Medical Centre.Now i know why they say time flies...it sure does!I'm looking forward to share my life and love with muaz.A very happy,cheeky,playful and "manja mummy".Loves his sister so very much"manja kakak" and of course manja with ayah too..but call him"ayah's boy".
Muhammad Muaz,thank you for being a part of me.Mummy is blessed to have you and i'm looking forward to more of your laughs,cries and your cheekiness.May you grow up to be a responsible,handsome,intelligent,religious young man and may you have the best of both worlds darling.We love you!!

polygamy/poligami...yes or no?

Salam to all.....

i thought i want to comment on this topic for tonite..it has been bugging me for the past few days.I'm hoping i'll get few feedbacks from you guys out there.

So,this polygamy is the word that most married women fear..I'm not sure i'm in which category.I want to talk about this bcoz..i know that there are women out there who wants to get married but their husband to be,is a married man.happily married man,with kids and all.Yesss!!!he's happy..but why did he fell in love with another woman?Is he out of love with his present wife?Is he not happy with his kids?Is he not happy with something?Couldn't be..he IS happily married.So why does he want to get married again?WHY???

Most wives who's against this polygamy thing,will go berserk,"meroyan",stresssed herself up by searching for the answer.."what did i do wrong?where did we go wrong?what did i mislook?"All these questions will be in her mind..torturing her day and nite..every second of the day.Am i that old?Am i not beautiful anymore?did i "give"him when he wants it?and the lists of questions will go on...

I'm sorry darlings..I dont have the answer to that.What i'm trying to say tonight is,in some cases...your husbands still loves you,he wont divorce you,you will always be the mother of his children that he adores and love...He's just being a man.

I havent done any research on this.Whatever i say here is completely my humble,personal views on this subject.I'm sorry if in the process of reading this,some of you might be hurt by my opinion,its not intentional.Just take it as another view by someone who's havent had any experience in this matter.

He's just being a MAN.Man falls in love easily...i dont know why but that's them.Lusts is different but i believe that a man can fall in love with another woman just like he fells in love with his 1st wife...sick?stupid?i dont know but i think its what they are.They can love their wife and at the same time love another woman.Its not that they dont love their wife anymore but they just have soooo much love to give(crap!!!)

I'm happy with my husband and i pray all the time that our marriage will last forever,that he wont fall out of love on me,and wont be hanky panky and wont lust on another woman.That's my prayer..but what happens in the future,i dont know.insyaallah,we will continue to build our relationship,shower it with love and have respect for each other till death do us part.

I understand there'll be frustrations,anger,hate,sadness,confusions,etc,etc...when you find out that the one you love and lived with,the one that you build your dreamhouse together,have kids together (and so on )can fall in love with another woman.You'll be cursing the other woman,call her names and all those unthinkable things that you want to do to her,just so you could hurt her the way she hurt you and your kids...but,is that worth it?Nothing or no one can describe the pain that you have in you,the dreams that you build together is crushed,gone,poof!!Is it worth the pain?

So my dear....I dont know what i'd do or how i'd react(nauzubillah)but i have this believe that if the husband can afford to have more than one wife,afford in every sense of the word,zahir and batin..why not?Islam allows it,its not wrong but the husband have to know that to care for one wife is a big "amanah".wives are "amanah"from Allah swt.If the husband can afford to have more than one wife,to be "adil"in every single thing(dont think they can),why not?

Go marry another...but have to remember,your marriage is with Gods name,so dont play a fool.

i'm getting sleepy now so i think i better stop now.i hope that all the wives will continue to pray and be thankful everyday,count your blessings and have faith.If your husband is lookin for another "one",take a deep breath,pray and ask for His help and guidance.Its not the end of the world.(i sure hope it wont happen to me)nauzubillah.

change is good

Salam everyone....:)

I've been wanting to pen down my view on this big word..CHANGE..but i'm afraid that i'll end up saying something that i myself do not practice.I've been to many places(alhamdulillah),seen many people,how they live,what they eat and many more how's.I've been blessed to see the other side of this beautiful world that i live in,been blessed to get the chances to visit other countries and been blessed to feel and experienced the four seasons..truly blessed,Alhamdulillah...I've seen the sunrise at the height of thousand heights above sea level,and the sunset too.At that moment,i felt it in my heart that The Almighty wanted me to see all His creations to make me realise that i'm blessed.(Alhamdulillah)

Why change?Why change?Have we asked ourselves..is there a need to change some part in our "perfect"life?or not perfect life?why is there a need to change?I'll try my best not to pick on anyone..i'll try my level best not to talk about my humble life..I'll try to say this in general,in my most humble opinion.

If we're not happy about how our lives are going,say your thanks to Him who have open your heart and eyes that you actually know that you need some changes in your life.

1. are you happy with your job?


2. are you happy with your spendings?


3. are you always short of money every month?


4. have you been to anywhere(holidays/getaways)for the past 1 year?


5. do you have that special someone to share your happy and sad moments?


6. do you still hold any grudges against anyone?


7. do you still blame other people on the "mistakes"that you make?


8. when is the last time you visit any mosques/surau/church/temple?


9. when was the last time that you prayed?


10. when was the last time you "mengaji "Al-Quran(for the muslims)


11. when was the last time you say your thanks to your parents?


12. when was the last time you held hands with your spouse?


13. 
    
    when was the last time you have a decent meal with your loved ones?

This list can go on forever..these lists comes to my mind as i'm typing.I never wrote down any list before.I asked myself some of these questions to myself..just to check on myself..to improve myself on all aspects of mylife.I personally think that if my life havent change for the past 1 year than i have to do some changes.If i feel that my bank accounts doesnt allow me to spend so much,i wont.If i feel that i've been spending too much on takeouts or unnecessary things,then i make changes.I'm a homemaker,with two toddlers.Yes i do have a side income but i like to do some reality check on myself sometimes.All in all i still think we have to go back to our basics(agama).I strongly believe that if we live according to our religion and faith,things will change for the better.I always like to remind myself that all this is just a "loan".You,me,my beloved husband,kids and other family members,beloved friends..loaned to us for a certain period of time..and we dont know when is our turn to "leave"this world.So,make the best of it.Change...i have to change..

I have a lot to change,i hope i'm strong enough to change it.I know that i can change for the better.If we shut our eyes,our ears and our hearts to change for the better...things will always be like this for us..it will never change.If anyone of you out there have a perfect life...help someone to change their life for a better life...help to bring a smile or put a hope in their hearts that there is a better future for them.

I'm not sure that this post make any sense..i sure hope you guys understand what i'm trying to say...

My sweet Marissa :)

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Assalamualaikum everyone.I was sooo extremely tired that i couldnt move my limbs...but i experienced a new episode in my humble life..Marissa went for her first day of preschool!!yeay!!It's not like a normal preschool,i sent her to vital years.It was actually an asessment class for her,trial class.I wanted a trial class so that i know wat my daughter wants.If she's not happy there then i wont enrol her.Alhamdulillah she enjoyed her 1st session and she actually passed the 1st stage of assesment.Her teacher told me that she's very independent,friendly and she can recognise and memorise very fast.Alhamdulillah,syukur.I infact notice that after her first day at school,she actually become more polite and she follow instructions well...alhamdulillah.Not that marissa was very naughty but she can be very stubborn at times..but she's still my sweet,sweet baby.This is new to us both my husband and me,our precious lil princcess is already in schooll...:( sad,mixed feelings.I know i'm going to miss her,maybe i sound like a sick mom or something,everybody goes through this right but i like to make mine sound more dramatic..I KNOW i'm going to miss her.
Marissa,if you're reading this one day,mummy want you to know that ayah and I are very proud of you and we love you verry much..."bigger than the ocean,bigger than the universe"(my tagline when i hug her )I'm sure Muaz loves you and was proud of you too.He actually misses you when you were in school :)
okies for now.I have to get going..my neighbours having a wedding..waiting for muaz to get up and get him ready.
take care y'all.

salam

salam everyone...i know its late but this is the only "free"time that i have..on my own..hehehe.whoever yg ada 2 toddlers will know what i mean.actually i'm one of the lucky ones..i mean ,i'm not that -super-busy-do-it all type of mum.I'm thankful that i dont have to cook or clean the hse everyday.(Alhamdulillah)thank you to my hubby who is super understanding in part kena masak ni..and he's not the fussy type have to cook everyday or clean everyday...
yess..Alhamdulillah..i'm so blessed.I hope when Marissa is all grown up and if she gets married,i doakan she'll have someone yg baik and understanding,not fussy,gentle,soft spoken and responsible hubby...just like her ayah.Aminnn...
There's a wediing tomorrow nite after isyak,my neighbours 21 yrs old daughter,the bongsu in the family is getting married.So,its like a tradition of the people here to gotong royong,peel the onions,garlic,ginger..etc...they do everything together from scratch.The neighbours here still practice this gotong royong thing which sometimes its fun and sometimes its not..to me.
Its verrrryyy tiring.I'm not looking forward to the cooking part..hey..sorry mates.I dont like the idea of having to sacrifice my childrens need,just to cook for a wedding.I meani know they would understand,they always do ;)
Muaz is still breastfeeding and i'm not the type to do it infront of the whole world you know what i mean?hehehehe....
So..tomorrow i'll wake up and do the normal thing and maybe i have to go and see a friend or maybe i have to "cook"with thy neyberrs..we'll seee....
till then adiossss..nite folks.

yeay..hubby coming back!!

Sorry people...forgot to mention how excited i am that my other half is coming tomorrow.It's been 7 years now (in july)that we've been married but i'm thankful that i still looking forward for him to come home..that must be a good sign aye...he's going to be around for the next 4 days..yahoo!!..made plans to update our friends and our work,planning to meet up and catching up with baby blu (wakakakaka)maybe do some visiting.i dont know yet,kita hanya merancang,Allah yg tentukan.so okies for now...

ciao!!

hmmmm...

Salam to all....havent had anything to post lately.A lot of things on my mind and a lot of things to do.Marissa and muaz is down with flu but not severe,'alhamdulillah.Have to start on their cod liver oil routine again.Eversince i had muaz,i notice that i'm lacking on discipline..last time i make sure marissa's diet includes protein,cod liver oil,fruits and raisins(a must) everyday.Raisins and strawberries were her favourite.She was not alllowed to have cold drinks.I read to her everyday.Stayed in her toys room with her and she knows her ABC's when she was only turning to 3 years old.I was so proud of her.
But now,i'm like this lazy ass mom(excuse my language),demanding more time to myself,not reading enough with my kids and i dont like this "new" me.Muaz is showing a lot of interest in books and yes we never fail to go to MPH on every outing but i still think i'm not giving enough.I'm exhausted and i dont know why i kinda take things lightly..
actually i hate to admit this but i think i know the reasons behind it all.I have other things to do.I have other thing for me to do for myself..is it bad?no..i dont think so..i do need to do my own things..right mommies.A happy mommy makes a happy family.
I just have to be more organized..no late nites(as if!!)
less skyping with baby blu and less berangan..dalam otak ni how to make more money???
that is soooo bad!poor marissa n muaz..mommy not giving you the attention you soo deserve.I will change,i want to change and i want to change it for me n my beloved family.

adios people..gtg.

new day...i feel great!!

Stayed up after subuh..made coffee,thai boxing a bit,swept the house,dusting and wiping wherever is needed ;))
I'm feeling great,feeling positive today.May this day and everyday will be a great day for me and my loved ones.My other half and my terrible two and terrible four is still sleeping ;).Going to make breakfast shortly.marissa loves bread with kaya..Heart shpae kaya bread mum..i can hear her saying it.so..gtg before they wakes up.have a great day mommies!!

outing.

Salam...got back from our outing 5 hours ago.just a normal outing with my family.The kids loves it whenever their ayah is around.They get to go for the rides in the mall and get some new books..i saw a new wristwatch that i like.my husband asked me to get it but i'm not in the "mood"for shopping...hehehe..can you believe it??but insyaallah..i will get the watch..someday..soon.

I'm really tired right now and tomorrow is going to be busy...busy,busy,busy...

marissa oh marissa..

marissa smiled while she's sleeping..a very satisfied,contented smile.Alhamdulillah.her ayah's back and got her books,for muaz too.its alphabets and numbers wipe n clean book,something that mummy is very,very pleased with and thumbs up for ayah..she was soo excited that she started practising her writing the minute we got home from the airport.(no writing in the car).
she practices her writing thru dinner and only stopped for 10 minutes to wrestle with ayah.

its very late now and i'm not suppose to do this at this hour.i'm trying to change my schedule and be more discipline with my time.maybe i'll try again tomorrow.signing off for now,goodnite everyone.

my 1st..

Salam to all....;))...

Who wud have guess that i'll have my own blog..i'm not even sure what to say here..how do i introduce myself?hmm..i'm quite excited and still curious on how this blogging works.to those who knew me would deft laugh at me right now..but,i'm okay,i'm positive..well lets see what happens after this..